Sometimes you have the opportunity to tell someone the truth or a lie. And you weigh the pros and cons, the influences and outcomes and make a decision. but no matter what you choose you always wish you had done the opposite. If you tell the truth you have the awful misfortune of them knowing exactly what you said/ did. If you lie you have guilt and that gnawing feeling that they will find out what the truth is. If you sit in silence then they will know something is wrong and depending on the person it is only a matter of time before they address. In most cases a “matter” is a unit of time measured in minutes (if you are a woman) or decades (because us men are clueless and/ or know better). But in the end where is the middle ground? Compromise is usually reserved for those who have a weaker resolve. The question, or challenge rather, then is how to put yourself in a situation where you do not arrive at this opportunity. Being a member of the opinionated generation I am one of those people that would rather say whatever comes to mind in regards to a topic. But people like us form and express these opinions without often giving mind to the second or third order of effect. What happens if this causes this? Or what happens if this is a result of this causing this and affecting that? The end result then is a consequence that we can not fathom and although it made sense to the other party we can not fathom nor do we feel we deserve such a response. Thus the environment that we create for ourselves is self deprecating. Either we don’t get to say what we want for fear of repercussions and stifle our selves into boggy misery or we crush those around us until we have no audience leaving us with the shrill sound of our own voices. So if you know me or someone like me, don’t put me in a position where I have to make this decision. my response to you should always be natural with no fear or regret.